She finally came in the mail! Janet Mock’s Redefining Realness
Anonymous said: Should I feel ashamed to be cisgendered? A lot of posts that in seeing on tumble lately have made me feel really bad for being white and cis, and I used to want to be a social activist and now I feel really bad about myself and like I shouldn't bother for reasons I feel are out of my control?
having privilege isn’t about feeling guilt or shame. literally no one cares if you (or i) feel guilt or shame for any privilege that you (or i) have & the feeling is entirely counterproductive & useless. your guilt means nothing in comparison to the oppression & violence trans people face on a daily basis. focus your effort on acknowledging & learning about your privileges &, in turn, educating others on theirs. you don’t necessarily have to be a serious social activist (tho that’s great if that’s what you want to do). imo, simply taking responsibility & educating yourself & doing better to be more conscious of things you say & do is what’s really important & impactful. feeling cis-guilt does literally nothing & just makes you sound like a privileged cry baby.